It is not appropriate to try to “control” someone else’s behavior, including that of an alcoholic person. However, there are steps you can take to encourage the person to seek help and support their journey towards sobriety:
Encourage them to seek help: Encourage the person to seek professional help for their addiction, such as by attending an addiction treatment program or joining a support group like Alcoholics Anonymous.
Set boundaries: Establish clear boundaries with the person, such as not enabling their drinking, not covering up for them, and not tolerating abusive behavior. Communicate these boundaries clearly and stick to them consistently.
Seek support for yourself: Consider joining a support group like Al-Anon or speaking with a therapist to receive support and guidance as you navigate the person’s addiction.
Educate yourself: Educate yourself on addiction and its effects on the individual and the family. This can help you understand the person’s behavior and how best to support their recovery.
Practice self-care: Take care of your own physical and mental health by engaging in activities that promote well-being, such as exercise, meditation, and hobbies.
Remember, addiction is a complex and challenging issue, and recovery is a journey that takes time and effort. Encouraging the person to seek help and supporting their recovery can be a meaningful way to support them, but ultimately, their sobriety is their responsibility. It is important to prioritize your own health and well-being, set clear boundaries, and seek support as needed.